MASQUERDARE — Emotional triggers


I wrote a poem to how a child feels trapped, afraid, shamed, scared, degraded, alone, broken, scarred from child abuse.
A child withdraws into a world where they can masquerade their emotions. They are flooded with all these emotions from abuse, its is the only way they can cope.
Scars and pain from abuse don't just disappear, they are there for life.
Triggers such as sound, or smell, a name, a place are the many triggers that can bring back suppressed memories of child abuse or abuse that has been hidden away in a child or adults mind.
A child can create a fantasy land, in their fairy-tale no one can come in.
Children and adults resort to self-harm — cutting when underlying emotions are overwhelming.

THIS IS THE MYTH : If someone acts “fine,” they can’t be the victim of abuse.  And their definition of fine is what exactly. The child or adult is not a mess on the floor crying their eyes out.
Wrong. Victims hide the abuse, including children. You hide it out of shame and fear.

Even when you are an adult, triggers in your life will also bring back suppressed memories of abuse. 
As hard as it is, you have to address those memories and you need to do this with a professional councilor preferably a Psychologist.
I have had many triggers over the years that have released repressed memories of abuse. 

I can remember speaking to a fellow Psychologist some years ago. We were talking about child abuse. He is actually a forensic and clinical Psychologist and he specializes in child sexual abuse. 
He was sexually abused as a child from the age of four years of age. He was now in his late 50's and was drawn to Psychology as a profession.
He had repressed the memories of that abuse as his coping mechanism, its what a child does and also what an adult does. 
He grew up hating football, men with red hair and beards and he had no idea why.
When he was 40 years of age, he was hit with all of these repressed memories that came flooding back like one giant waterfall.
He remembered being sexually abused by his uncle who took him to football every Saturday, who had red hair and a red beard. 

Repressed Memories and Trauma.  
Repressed memories is the brains way of processing severe trauma.
Something horrible happens and the mind pushes it to a corner of the subconscious.
Child hood trauma effects the way the brain stores memories.
Victims of abuse quite often, but not always cope by dissociating themselves from the abuse that took place.
The memories can be forgotten and recalled much later in life, or even days or weeks later.
Those memories can come back as fragments, or in one entire piece of the event or many events that took place of the abuse.
The fear of not knowing can cause bouts of anger or severe depression anxiety.
Repressed memories can come back gradually, over many years, or they can come back as a waterfall, and some repressed memories never come back at all.
Repressed memories can come back through a trauma. 
I had a client years ago, a grown women, she was sexually abused by her uncle, she repressed the memories. When she was in her late 30's a friend of hers was in a car accident. The trauma of  her friend's car accident triggered her memories to come flooding back to her.

When you are the victim of rape, sexual abuse, domestic violence, a trauma of any kind, you don't always remember right away all the details of the event. 
When the police for example ask you to recall what happened in detail. You cant, its the way our brains are wired. 
You could remember details days to weeks, to months later. Then you are called a liar, you are just making that up. And since those police officers or anyone who calls you a liar is not a clinical or Forensic Psychologist they have no clue how our brains process memory, especially went confronted with trauma or violence. 
No your not, its the way are brains react to certain things.
For example if someone asks you what you were doing on a Wednesday two months ago, six months ago at 7:00 PM. Are brains are not designed to remember details like that; well the average person is not, not unless you have a Eidetic memory or photographic memory.

Scars — Vulnerability Article 

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder — PTSD — Anxiety Article

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